Parenting · by Budi Santoso · 2026-09-17
What mistake taught you the most about school after a few failed attempts?
the detail that surprised me was how much the train station changed the outcome. Same plan, different setting, completely different energy.
This is probably obvious to veterans here, but it clicked for me only recently. family got easier when I stopped treating every attempt like a final exam.
The detail that surprised me was how much a neighborhood park changed the outcome. Same plan, different setting, completely different energy
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Isha Menon · 18 likes
My practical advice is to make teh next step tiny enough that you can do it today. Momentum usually answers half teh question. My friend tried it in Warsaw and had teh opposite result
Felix Weber · 17 likes
Yes but I would approach it in a small, testable way rather then trying to solve everything at once. You will learn more from a simple version repeated three times than from a perfect plan you never start.
- Start small and make the next step obvious.
- Keep notes so you can compare what worked.
- Ask someone with recent experience, not just strong opinions.
Source: mostly hard-won experience and comparing notes with people who stuck with it
Curious Noodle · 1 likes
@quiet_budi I am curious what changed your mind
Valentina Ruiz · 11 likes
The middle path is probably best: try it cheaply keep notes and decide after you have real evidence. That is where the boring checklist helps
Chinedu Adeyemi · 9 likes
I would ask what outcome you want in two weeks, not in some ideal future. That makes the choice much clearer. I noticed the same thing in Lagos
Nour Ali · 1 likes
good clarification — I read it differently at first
Ananya Rao · 6 likes
I wish more posts had this much context. This pairs weirdly well with lentil soup
Hugo Martin · 5 likes
I think this advice is overrated. This is more useful on a tired weekend then on a perfect day
Urban Fern · 5 likes
I would ask what outcome you want in two weeks, not in some ideal future. That makes the choice much clearer. This is where I would ask one more question before choosing
Daniel Kiptoo · 3 likes
My practical advice is to make the next step tiny enough that you can do it today. Momentum usually answers half the question. Honestly, the simplest version wins for me
Léa Bernard · 3 likes
my practical advice is to make the next step tiny enough that you can do it today. Momentum usually answers half the question. This is where I would ask one more question before choosing
Rohan Mehta · 2 likes
Yes, but I would approach it in a small, testable way rather than trying to solve everything at once. You will learn more from a simple version repeated three times than from a perfect plan you never start.
- Start small and make the next step obvious.
- Keep notes so you can compare what worked.
- Ask someone with recent experience, not just strong opinions.
Come back with what happened; the details will make the next answer better
Paolo Garcia · 2 likes
I would ask what outcome you want in two weeks, not in some ideal future. That makes teh choice much clearer. The Seoul example makes it feel concrete
Tiny Atlas · 2 likes
The kindness in this post is lovely. That is where the boring checklist helps
Sleepy Rider · 2 likes
my practical advice is to make teh next step tiny enough that you can do it today. Momentum usually answers half teh question. This pairs weirdly well with idli
Grace Parker · 1 likes
Yes but I would approach it in a small, testable way rather than trying to solve everything at once. The trap is trying to optimize before you have feedback.
- Start small and make the next step obvious.
- Keep notes so you can compare what worked.
- Ask someone with recent experience, not just strong opinions.
Hope this helps!
Grace Parker · 2 likes
Small caveat: context changes the answer a lot
Maya Putri · 5 likes
Exactly; the hidden cost is energy
Avery Johnson · 3 likes
good clarification — I read it differently at first
Lina Al Harbi · 1 likes
My practical advice is to make the next step tiny enough that you can do it today. Momentum usually answers half the question. It reminds me of a very specific conversation near the kitchen
Haruto Sato · 1 likes
My practical advice is to make the next step tiny enough that you can do it today. Momentum usually answers half the question. The 3-minute rule is underrated
Chiara Romano · 1 likes
I would ask what outcome you want in two weeks, not in some ideal future. That makes the choice much clearer. This is where I would ask one more question before choosing
Nour Ali · 1 likes
Thanks that actually helped
Mango Comet · 1 likes
My practical advice is to make the next step tiny enough that you can do it today. Momentum usually answers half the question. The ambitious part is easy to underestimate
Thandi Mokoena · 1 likes
My practical advice is to make the next step tiny enough that you can do it today. Momentum usually answers half the question. A little friction removed goes a long way
Beatriz Sousa · 0 likes
My practical advice is to make the next step tiny enough that you can do it today. Momentum usually answers half the question. Honestly, the simplest version wins for me